Unless people are honest and open enough to accept what is happening, how can they possibly do anything about it? ‘It is what it is’ does not mean giving in to a situation. It is the essential starting point to not giving in through denial and thus acquiescence.
If we don't face what is, the ‘what is’ doesn't change and goes on getting ever more extreme. How many people have died of a disease that could have been cured at an earlier stage, but they didn't want to face the possibility of what was wrong and so they did nothing about it?
‘It is what it is’ must go together with ‘so let’s deal with it’ if anything is to change for the better, either in our individual lives or collectively. Without recognising the first part, you never do the second.
If we don't face what is, the ‘what is’ doesn't change and goes on getting ever more extreme. How many people have died of a disease that could have been cured at an earlier stage, but they didn't want to face the possibility of what was wrong and so they did nothing about it?
‘It is what it is’ must go together with ‘so let’s deal with it’ if anything is to change for the better, either in our individual lives or collectively. Without recognising the first part, you never do the second.
People stay in tired, loveless, even abusive relationships, because they don’t want to face what is. I have heard women concoct the most amazing excuses for their partner knocking the crap out of them. ‘It was my fault, I made him mad at me’.
No, he’s a brutal bully. Face it. Get out of there. He is what he is. It is what it is.
If I have a rotting piece of pie on my plate I am not going to convince myself it is fresh out of the oven just to make me feel better. If I do, the pie will go on rotting and eventually stink the place out. Stick it in the bin and make another. We can do this once we accept what is.
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