Are you crying for yourself or for another?

When you lose someone you love you shed tears- are your tears for yourself or for the one who is dead? Are you crying for yourself or for another? Have you cried for another? Have you ever cried for your son who was killed on the battlefield? You have cried, but do those tears come out of self-pity or have you cried because a human being has been killed? 

(JKRISHNAMURTI, Freedom from the Known,83)